I work in an office in which there is a variety of unusual behaviors. There's a woman who periodically sleeps under her desk during the day. There's a woman who comes in an hour late every day and is incredibly mean. One of the bosses does nothing but lumber around, spreading a weird odor and making strange noises and picking his nose and ears with a pointy stick. Is this normal? This is my first office job. Should I move on? Is my mental health in danger? Or can I stay at this job and watch the odd scenery?

After almost 25 years of marriage, four children, cancer, a new career, my wife's New Year's resolution was to tell me she wanted to separate. That for the past 10 years she had lost the spark, and now she intended to move out to an apartment. I know we had problems and I was depressed but I'm on an antidepressant and have come alive again. I love my wife and want to rekindle our love. We are not fighting, nor are we shouting, and our children (13, 15, 18, 21) all know and seem to understand what is going on. I want to have a marriage counselor and go through a church-sponsored marriage rediscovery program for troubled marriages. She tells me she did that 10 years ago and is not sure she wants to do that again. I don't want to push her out by being too loving, but I feel I can't just stand by and watch her go. Mr. Blue, what am I to do?

I used to think I was a bright, rational 20-something girl, but I've surprised myself by falling into a very stupid emotional trap. I'm having an affair with an older married man. At the beginning, I felt in control, and was confident that, when the affair tapered off, I could continue my life uninjured and free. I'm not so sure of that now. I know it must end eventually, and the idea terrifies me. Bizarrely, though I don't know her well, I like his wife and would be devastated if their marriage ended because of me. Somehow, I think I could feel better if I knew he and I could remain friends. I can't bring myself to ask him to release me. I realize I've given him all the power over the relationship; my fear of breaking relations with him entirely has me paralyzed. How could I have been so weak?

I have a friend who met a Canadian woman through the Internet, chatted with her for about a year, flew to Canada for four days, came back and declared his love for her. He said they were engaged. She has two young children; he hates kids. He has a great job with a major financial institution; he's been talking about moving to Canada and hopes that his company will open a branch there. I am afraid he is about to make a huge mistake and will regret it. Am I wrong to worry about my friend? I've brought up my misgivings gently a couple of times, but I know that to mention them again risks alienation. Any advice?

My husband and I just got married a few months ago after living together for a few years. We love being together; every moment is either dreamlike or hilariously funny. I never in a million years dreamed I would ever be so happy! He just moved into a brand-new position that places him at the top of his field. I am being offered a position that would advance me, but it's 1,800 miles away. It's an academic position, which means the semesters are short and the breaks are long, but I don't know that I am ready to give up the beauty of our day-to-day life to commute from the mountains of the West to Manhattan for a few weeks at a time. Academic jobs in my field are few and far between, just like wonderful relationships with compatible people. I know, everyone should have such problems. Still, it is a dilemma. What to do?